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Dating advice for men—Where to meet girls

Where to Meet Girls

The best place to meet women is where you are right now and where you go as a result of your normal day.Okay, it looks like we have to back up just a little bit and take a look at where to meet girls.

You know me, I like to be complete and make sure you get good information from me so there aren’t any misconceptions.

I got a bunch of emails about my last post on how to talk to women, but I also got more than I expected on where to meet girls.

That’s great, because it either means that you guys have been reading the blog and already have a good handle on how to talk to girls, you just need to know where to meet them.

Or, you want to know where to meet girls because you’re ready to get on it and start pursuing women.

Either way, it makes me happy to see you going for what you want.

Here’s one email I got:

I also have no clue where to go to meet women. I can’t go to the strip club right now because it’s $5 to get in the door and $10 for a drink (even plain water). I can’t afford to spend $15 just on the off-chance of flirting with a girl.

Here in the burbs are malls but they’re full of nothing but high
school girls and middle-aged fat women.


Now, besides the fact that I’d never go to a strip club to meet a girl, and don’t know why any guy in his right mind would, this email is pretty typical of questions guys ask when they want to know where they can meet women.

So, I’ll take a tiny step back and talk today about where to meet girls.

Personally, I’m lazy when it comes to meeting women. I don’t like to go out of my way to meet them. Once I’ve found one I’m going to seduce, I’ll work at it, but the finding part… I don’t work too hard at that, and neither do you.

So, I meet and sleep with the women in my everyday life, or as a result of living my everyday life. that means I work the cashiers at my grocery store, women I see when shopping for clothes, electronics, books, or house wares.

I go to a hair salon with attractive women and hit on all of them when I’m getting my hair cut.

I hit on the girls working in every store I shop at, whether it’s my first time there or my 50th.

If I took any kind of mass transport to work, a bus, train or subway… I’d be all over the women on them.

I chose my drycleaner just because they always have new girls rotating through there working the counter. I meet one, we have a fling, and about the time they move to another job and are replaced by a new girl, our relationship has run its course.

I also meet people at work. Of course I go out with people who work there too, but I also date customers.

The guy who sent me the email above actually works in a hotel.

In a hotel.

A hotel where women check in alone every day. Not that all of them are single, but let’s face it… when the cat’s away, the mice will play. Those girls are prime pickings for some NSA sex in a lot of cases.

So, how about he starts working on the women who check into the hotel?

What? You say he’d lose his job? Okay, maybe. But chances of that are pretty slim, and I happen to know he’s quitting in a few weeks anyway.

If I was him, I might not though. Hotels are hotbeds full of women who are about as inclined to sleep with you as any girl you’ll meet. for sure one obstacle, where to go, is easily taken care of.

Where else?

Well, I paraglide and I meet women who paraglide as well. I also go play with my glider at the local city park. Women are always coming up to me and asking me what I’m doing.

And, if they don’t, I’ll call out to them and ask if they want to give it a try. They sometimes do, and it always gets and interesting conversation going.

We fire up a conversation and if she’s hot and intelligent, I’ll suggest I teach her sometime. Or invite her to come with me next time I fly. Or meet again to talk about whatever.

So, meet women who like the same stuff you like. That means having hobbies. Preferable hobbies that can be done in public.

My brother flies stunt kites and he takes one with him where ever he goes. The guy making precision turns and doing loop to loops with his kite gets a lot of attention from people, including women.

Join a club. Take a class. Learn to dance. Checkout meetup.com for groups of people doing things you’re interested in and join the meetings.

We all think there isn’t anything going on around us, but if you start looking, you can find a group of people who are into whatever you’re into in a matter of minutes. Literally minutes if you go to meetup.com.

Oh, in college I used to make a killing at the Laundromat. Bring a deck of cards and start a game. I had 3 of them I used to go to, and I’d do laundry at least twice a week on different days just to meet the women there.

And speaking of college… go take career classes. If I had it to do over again, I would take a cosmetology course. Not as a career, and not because I want to be a cosmetologist, but because there are about 9 women for every guy in the field… and about 15 women for every straight guy. The women are decent looking and know how to take care of you and themselves.

Look…

Women are everywhere. Over half the people in the world are women. you probably pass or see at least 5 women every day who are worth talking to every day. you just have to go talk to them. that’s it.

Just go about the normal course of your day and talk to the women who interest you.

Do that and you will have more women in your life than you know what to do with.

If you’re interested in Marlee, my favorite girl, and her ideas of where we should go to meet women, check out this post.

Talk later—JT