How to tell if a woman likes you
When I got a question from a friend who purchased my 4 email package, it was obvious that more guys could benefit from the answer I gave him.
Here is one of the questions he asked me.
In response, we wrote a 12 page response to his question about how to tell if a woman likes you, and then covered just about everything you need to know about how to approach women. Here’s the beginning of that message…
How do you know if a girl is interested in you so you can go and start talking to her? (I am looking for hidden signs, not the obvious ones that everyone notices).
So, you want to know how to tell if a girl likes you. I’m not sure we should cover that right away simply because I would MUCH rather show you how you can approach ANY woman and MAKE HER ATTRACTED TO YOU.
Doesn’t picking out a girl of your choice and making her attracted to you sound a whole lot better than taking whatever the girl decides, purely on superficial things, and figuring out when she likes you?
Know what? I’ll do both. I’ll tell you when you can tell a girl is interested AND I’ll show you how to make a girl like you from the get go.
First… how to tell if a woman likes you:
Let’s list everything I can think of because what’s obvious to you might be “hidden signs” to someone else.
When she angles her body toward you.
When she points her knees at you.
When she looks at you more than once.
When a girl holds your gaze a little longer than normal.
When a girl smiles at you.
She is physically nearby you.
She moves closer to you.
You run into more than once “by chance”.
She talks to your friends.
Her friends look at you.
She looks your direction and tosses her hair back or lifts her chest a little.
She hangs around for no obvious reason. Like she’s done eating, reading her book, or shopping and she doesn’t leave right away.
If she does ANY of these things, that’s when you know she likes you.
It’s your job as the man to take the initiative and the risk and go talk to her.
Often a girl, especially attractive girls, will give absolutely no sign that they’re interested in you even when they are. They use that as a screening tool so that only the most confident guys even approach them in the first place.
My rule of thumb is that she likes me until proven otherwise. If we are talking a bit and she doesn’t seem interested, I assume that…
She likes me, she just doesn’t know it yet.
You would do incredibly well with women if you just adopted those two philosophies.
Let’s go through these one at a time…
You assume that the girl likes you until proven otherwise.
Here’s the deal… she may be interested to start out with, or she may not be. But since when you start out you don’t have any idea which it is–and there’s just as good a chance as it being one that works for you as the one that works against you….
And since you’re just guessing anyway, you might as well believe the one that makes it more likely that you’ll get what you want.
You’ve got a 50/50 chance, you might as well assume the one that helps your cause.
But… let’s say that you’re talking a little to this girl and she doesn’t seem interested.
What do you do when that happens?
You assume that she likes you, she just doesn’t know it yet.
In this case she is judging you WAY too early and all you need to do is spend a little more time with her, have her get to know you a little better, and chances are she is going to like you.
So… you just go ahead as if she likes you already and that will give you your best chance of it happening.
As far as when to back off… honestly, I probably stay with it a lot longer with girls than most guys. And I sleep with more attractive women than almost any guy on the planet.
So, I’d say one key is to be respectfully persistent. If she is being rude, which almost never happens, I’ll tell her it was nice meeting her, thank her and say goodbye.
But barring that, I continue to flirt and assume she likes me.
I can hear a girl tell me when she likes me from miles away, but can’t hear her say she doesn’t like me if she screams it in my ear.
If you’re like most guys, my guess is that you are backing off WAY too soon.
As far as approaching a woman of your choice and making her attracted to you… that is a whole new ball game and one I specialize in.
In my experience coaching hundreds of guys one-on-one, I’ve found we are, as a group, way above average in intelligence.
And if you’re here reading this, chances are that you’re pretty darn smart too.
But here’s the problem with that… we over-analyze situations and come up with good, sensible reasons not to go up and say “hi” to a girl. And not saying “hi” destroys just about any chance we have of ever meeting her.
So, if you’re interested in discovering how to approach women, just send me an email at johnthomaspierce at gmail with “Approaching Women” in the headline and I’ll get you everything you need to get started!