Dating older women—things to keep in mind to make it a great experience
Today I’d like to talk a little bit about a subject a lot of people overlook: dating older women. We usually get so focused on landing a hot 22-year old that we forget that her older counterpart is in the market for a good time as well. I’m generally attracted to women in their 20’s exclusively…but I have to admit that I’ve had a lot of great experiences with women a little older as well.
One of the great things about them is that they have a different level of maturity than younger girls. They’re not into playing games, and if they’re attracted to you they’ll let you know it. A lot of times they’ll even make the first move, which usually doesn’t happen with a 20-year old. Well, a sober one anyway! If she likes you, you have a way better chance of taking her home that night…and it takes a lot less work. She’s not concerned about looking like a “slut”, and this works in your favor.
They’re also generally (and hopefully) more sexually experienced, which is a huge plus in the bedroom. They know what they like, and aren’t afraid to guide you in the right direction. This makes things much easier and takes away some of the guesswork that always comes with a new woman. On the flipside, she will also know what YOU like, and be willing to do it. And it will be without some of the nervousness and awkwardness that comes with a younger girl.
For our purposes here, we’re going to consider and older woman to be about 10 years older than you. But if you’re in your 40s or 50s, then we’re talking 35 or older. The same principles for dating older women apply.
These women will generally have had several relationships, many of them in the multi-year category. They’ve also had those relationships go to shit several times and don’t attach the same weight to stupid, piddly things like girls in their 20’s who are relatively inexperienced do. They just don’t sweat the small stuff as much, which makes them more fun to be around. A side benefit of dating older women is that you can actually have a conversation with them, which is kind of nice if you’re looking to actually be friends with the girl you’re seeing.
One thing to keep in mind when dating older women is that they’re not as confident in their looks as they used to be.
Society puts a big premium on youthful beauty, and believe me, the older woman feels that. If you can make her feel attractive, you’re a long way towards reaching your goal. And on the flipside, she’s not as concerned with looks as a younger woman is. She’s been through the trenches, dated the pretty boys, the bad boys, you name it. She realizes that all that doesn’t really matter anymore. This is good for you.
What you have to do is project an air of confidence and sexuality. You want to come across with a level of maturity that would normally be unexpected in a guy your age. Keep the frat house humor and pranks to yourself, and act like a grown up. It’ll pay dividends. Check out some of my previous posts on confidence to get some good info on the subject.
Another point to think about is the fact that these women are going to be more forward with their own sexuality and confidence as well. She’s not going to waste her time feigning interest or acting disinterested when she really isn’t. Those are young girl games. This girl might kiss you first. Let her!! Don’t try to play like you’re not interested, or some other lame ploy to seem like you’re in control. She is just gonna think you’re scared or too inexperienced to be worth her time.
And if you are inexperienced or scared, just roll with it. This is a golden opportunity for you to gain needed experience and learn some great tricks along the way. Like I said before, an older woman knows what she likes in the bedroom and isn’t afraid to show you how she wants to be sexed. Keep an open mind and learn from it. The next time you hit the sack with a younger girl she’ll be blown away 🙂
Above all else, just have a good time. Most older women aren’t looking for anything serious right off the bat and they don’t usually get as attached by sex as young girls do. You can be completely honest with them, whether you’re looking for a one night thing or even something more. You can set the frame of the experience or the relationship any way you’d like, especially if you’re honest from the beginning. These women know that sometimes sex is just sex, and they’re fine with that.
And if you find that you really do like spending time with her and enjoy her company, there’s no reason not to go further!!
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